The past few months have been rough between illness and surgery; it feels like we just can’t catch a break. Most recently I underwent surgery and although I kind of knew what to expect it made me realize how much I do and how little I rely on others. It was so difficult for me to ask for help and I needed help. I needed to have someone watch the little man while my husband drove me to and from my appointment and then I had restrictions limiting me from lifting, bending, etc. I don’t like not being able to do things and I am finding I may be a bit more of a control freak than I thought I was.


I am not sure why it is so easy for some of us to jump in and help others, but not ask for help in return when we need it. This made me think about this verse from Galatians 6:2 where it talks about bearing each other’s burdens. How can we expect our brothers and sisters in Christ to bear our burdens if they don’t know what they are? If we don’t let others know that we need help, they can’t help us. There is also nothing wrong with asking for help. Man is not meant to go through life alone. We see this back in Genesis when God created Adam he stated that it was not good for man to be alone and he created a helpmate in Eve.


There is a common quote by David Allen ,“You can do anything, but you can’t do everything.” There is a lot of truth in this. We can’t do everything ourselves and if we try we will burn out. It’s okay to ask for help sometimes. In a church we used to attend we had small groups, but we called them Life Groups because the premise was that as brothers and sisters in Christ we are here for each other and are meant to do life together. 


This is something I am still learning and will need to improve on. I need to remember I can’t do it all. I also need to remember that other people do things differently and that’s okay. We can’t control everything and if someone is offering help accept it graciously. So the next time you are feeling overwhelmed and need help just reach out and ask!


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